Communication : Chapter 2

If you think you don't have many friends or feel bored in your life.

Maybe...your communications skills is not good enuf for u to know some friends :<

There are some ways to help U to level up your skills on talking.

Basically, people who dunno how to talk with new ppl in life [just like me-.-]

Because they are lack of confidence





Well...we can do more presentations. Most of us are scared to present sths in front

of others.

But this practices would improve our talking skills and confidence.



Besides my suggestions,

Here are the 99 Ways To Improve Your Communication Skills


1. Listen with an open mind

2. Ask open ended questions

3. Ask closed questions to confirm and validate.

4. Acknowledge feelings

5. Explore and confirm your understanding.

6. Use "scales" to compare degrees of feeling, intensity, urgency, insistence

7. Explain your thinking clearly

8. Explain your feelings honestly

9. Use criteria and data to make a decision

10. Explain your criteria and confirm your data

11. Reach agreement on a decision process

12. Explain your level of commitment and urgency

13. Involve others in your decisions

14. Develop a friendly relationship before ever offering criticism

15. Declare your passions for the things you love

16. Ask permission before offering feedback to anyone, ever

17. Practice receiving feedback in a friendly manner

18. Practice giving encouraging feedback

19. Make and video-record a presentation and then watch it carefully

20. Tape your voice and listen to it carefully

21. Study the expressions of everyday body language

22. Confirm your interpretations of body language

23. Make comfortable and frequent eye contact

24. Respect and reflect the feelings of others

25. Validate the feelings of others

26. Respect your elders…as well as those younger than you

27. Respect authority…but ask lots of questions

28. Say hello first. Be the friendly one.

29. Touch someone’s shoulder, or back, or arm in a friendly way.

30. Learn to laugh at almost everyone's jokes

31. Make integrity one of your core values and ask other people what that should mean.

32. Always tell the truth.

33. Keep your promises

34. Name the problems that stand in the way of mutual understanding

35. Read lots of novels.

36. Read lots of nonfiction including things that have absolutely nothing to do with your job, or your major, or your expertise

37. Keep a journal. Write something every day

38. Watch a movie and look for the communication theme

39. Paint a picture about communication

40. Go for a walk & talk with a friend

41. Turn on the stereo and find the communication theme in a song

42. Play like a child (by getting a child to teach you)

43. Play the drums to express your feelings to a friend

44. Watch a great communicator in action and ask at least three questions.

45. Listen to a sportscaster for a team you don’t care about.

46. Watch a video recording of a debate or campaign speech

47. Sing in a choir.

48. Listen to many great speakers and preachers. Take notes.

49. Set aside and use some "wandering" time to talk to a family member.

50. Practice pronouncing your words clearly by reading aloud.

51. Practice using new gestures. Dance.

52. Write an old fashioned letter with paper and pen.

53. Paraphrase what someone else says and ask if you reflected their thoughts and feelings correctly.

54. Pause during an activity to think about what it’s teaching you about communication.

55. Control yourself from jumping to conclusions by counting to 3…or 10…or maybe 100

56. Think, listen, and pause when you feel like interrupting

57. Let people finish their own sentences. Even (especially) your significant other.

58. Ask for examples, especially when you think you disagree

59. Provide examples, especially when you don’t agree. Explain your thinking.

60. Be specific and provide details when you’re talking with a co-worker.

61. Clarify, clarify, clarify. Pretend you really don't know (you probably don't).

62. Ask questions before supporting or opposing another person's ideas.

63. Read about communicating. Glean wisdom from short quotes on communication.

64. Take notes. Re-read them later.

65. Take a college course.

66. Tell stories to illustrate your points.

67. Learn another language.

68. Sell something.

69. Expand your vocabulary. Learn a new word every day.

70. As you watch a TV show, focus on the ways the characters communicate.

71. Turn the radio on in the car to a station featuring talk.How do they keep things lively?

72. Turn the cell phone off and begin a face to face conversation with someone you don't know.

73. Take a breather and step away during a heated discussion. Return when you're ready to listen first before speaking.

74. Challenge assumptions, especially your own.

75. Change your perspective on something by seeing it a new way.

76. Join a discussion group, Bible study, or book club.

77. Leave the chat room for the living room.

78. Teach a course.

79. Watch a comedian and pay close attention to the use of timing, pace, and rhythm

80. Play charades.

81. Watch a clown for tips on non-verbal communication.

82. Assume responsibility for anything and everything that matters to you and then: speak up!

83. Take care of other people's feelings as well as your own.

84. Eliminate secret side-bar conversations during gatherings and meetings.

85. Leave rank at the door.

86. Handle differences or conflicts positively and constructively.

87. Keep confidences…but (see 88)

88. Assume every word that you say is "on" the record. Nothing is private.

89. Smile. Laugh. Giggle. A lot.

90. Remember that people are allowed to change. You, too. Talk about it.

91. Never retaliate against a personal wrong. React with kindness and discuss it..

92. Follow through on commitments and explain clearly exactly what they are.

93. Share responsibility. Always.

94. Don't assume that silence means agreement. Ever.

95. Reframe your perspective on thekey points in a conversation to check for your own understanding.

96. Use "I" statements and requests instead of “you” statements and commands.

97. Declare your openness to new ideas.

98. Speak only for yourself.

99. Be yourself!

-.- wow...99 ways



Hope you would get more friends :D



Enjoy you life :)